The Worlds Wrongful View of Christians

In today’s society, everyone argues for equality, fairness and tolerance. If anyone disagrees with a viewpoint then they are a “hater” or are being “racist”, “sexist” or “homophobic”. I don’t have a problem with anyone stating their opinion but there is a difference between stating an opinion and stating something but not accepting a different opinion. This is where I get frustrated with today’s society. 

I am a Christian and really try to hold true to what Christ has laid out for us to behave like. That does not mean I am perfect. I fall and have to work better the next time. But, I do have a strong opinion on controversial topics as it relates with my faith. The topic I want to cover today is homosexuality. I am wanting to clear up the issue with why we believe against it and touch on some of the common responses from homosexual people. 

The most obvious and most heard reason is that it goes against the Bible.

  • 1 Timothy 1:10
  • 1 Corinthians 6:9
  • Leviticus 20:13
  • Leviticus 18:22
  • Romans 1:27

These Bible verses state that it is immoral to have sexual relations with the same sex. But there are many other verses that tell us, as Christians to not judge others. For this reason, I do not “hate” homosexual people – in fact, I have a few friends that are homosexual and bi – but they all clearly know I don’t agree with them. We stay away from the topic and neither one of us shoves our opinion down the others throat. More people need to be like that. 

Without further ado, I just want all homosexual, bi, and transgender people out there to know that we don’t hate them but we can just agree to disagree. I don’t tell you how to live but don’t tell me I need to be all for homosexuality either. Just as some people like a certain style doesn’t mean it’s wrong, it’s just what they like and stand for. 

So I will not and do not post things like “Love Wins” or “Love is Love”, not because I hate them but because I won’t post something I don’t believe in. 

I know many of you will have different opinions and I welcome them! Please be kind as I have been. ๐Ÿ˜Š


๏ปฟVidcon 2016

I haven’t written in a few days because I was attending Vidcon 2016. It has been two years since I attended but this year my husband was able to watch the kids. I was able to see my brother for some of his appearances and he had gotten me a full access pass. This pass meant I was able to go wherever I pleased including backstage, eat and drink for free and skip lines. 

Siblings: Mia, Sam and myself

I was able to meet a few people and hangout with my brother and his friends. It was a busy day of talking to companies, brands and influencers. I had a wonderful time and met amazing people from all over. Can’t wait for next year!

Below are some of the people I was able to meet and hangout with. 

with @glozell
with @amymarie
with @brodiesmith21 and my brother levi
with @jennamarbles
@rickydillon, @andrearussett, myself and my brother levi
myself with @maxnosleeves

But as always, my family is a crazy bunch so we have our own set of photos ๐Ÿ˜‹

If you’d like to share an experience or just have something to say, comment below! ๐Ÿ˜Š

Advice/Tips, Opinion

Tips and Advice for Coping with PTSD

To conclude my series of PTSD Awareness Month, I’ve decided to write some tips for people dealing with PTSD – coping skills – and what you can do to help others with this issue by understanding components of PTSD. 

Part 1 – Dealing with PTSD

  1. Exercise – It will release endorphins and help you focus your thoughts. 
  2. Self soothe – Finding what calms you down will help when you really need to get back to what you were doing. 
  3. Connect – Find others who share the same struggle to connect with and help each other. 
  4. Self Care – Take time to relax, eat healthy, stay away from alcohol and drugs, get a good amount of sleep. 

Different things will help depending on what caused your PTSD. 

For abuse, writing out the whole traumatic experience will be difficult but is a great way to feel like you’ve moved past the event. 

For combat, connecting and seeking out some kind of counceling will help. Finding the right counselor is a big part of getting better. 

Part 2 – Supporting Someone with PTSD

  1. Don’t pressure – It can be difficult to express what exactly they are feeling or what they experienced. 
  2. Listen – Most of the time, someone dealing with PTSD need to talk about their issues. Help guide them with what to do by their cues. They may need to just talk about the event over and over again, other times they just need someone to hangout with that doesn’t pressure them. 
  3. Understand Triggers – This could include anniversary dates; people or places connected with the trauma; and even certain sights, sounds, or smells. By being aware of the triggers that may cause a reaction, you are better able to help and understand them. 
  4. It’s not Personal – Dont take certain behaviors personal like anger, irritatable or being closed off. Accept you may never fully understand what they are going through.
  5. Balance – Taking care of yourself and keeping a level head works wonders. Also, learning more about PTSD will help you to understand better. 

So I hope you can go out there and use these tips to help aid yourself or someone else deal with this issue. It can be difficult but with support and determination, you can accomplish a better life. ๐Ÿ˜Š

Let me know if you found these to be helpful or if you have your own tip to add. Just comment below ๐Ÿ‘

Family, Opinion, Relationships

Found My Half Sibling

For many people, finding a long lost relative can be challenging and an emotional journey. I have my own story that I’d like to share because it has been life changing. 

My biological dad has never been in the picture since I was about 2 years old. So when my mom was dealing with some issues she came across some information that didn’t make sense to her. Under my fathers name it showed he had two children. My mom looked up the other baby and found out I had a half brother a year and a half younger than me. So when I was three she found some information of the mother to the child. My mom worked at getting in touch with the boy’s mother and when she did, the other lady didn’t want us to contact them again because she was remarrying and didn’t want her son to know her husband wasn’t his father. 

Fast forward about 17 years, my mom and I are talking about getting in touch with him again because he would be 18 years old now. We didn’t know where to start, so I figured best bet would be a Facebook search. Entered his name and up came 6892 matches. This seemed like an impossible task but we decided we would take turns going through each profile looking for someone that possibly resembled myself. Hours passed and then days. On the third day, I got home from work and my mom is standing there smiling. “I think I found him!” My mom rushed me to the computer and showed me the profile she thought was it. I click on the profile picture and he is tall, thin and in a military uniform. It was like looking at a male version of myself. I think I found him. My mind was racing. 

I waited a full day before I took my chances and send a message to the guy I believed to be my half brother. It was a few hours before I received a response. He was so unsure of everything because he had never heard of me but he did know his father was not the one that raised him. So we talked for a few hours, sharing information and finally came to the conclusion that we were half siblings. I had found him!

This started our crazy but wonderful sibling relationship. We talk every single week and really want to plan meeting up. It has just been difficult since he is in the Air Force and I’ve got kids now. But we share so much in common and I couldn’t imagine not having him in my life now. 

So for anyone out there looking for someone, don’t give up hope. I thought it would be impossible but through some tough digging, it was accomplished. Perseverance is what makes miracles happen. 

Share your story below or let me know if you are looking for someone. ๐Ÿ’œ
By perseverance the snail reached the ark. -Charles Spurgon 

Family, Opinion, Relationships

Fathers Day 2016

First and foremost, Happy Father’s Day to all you fathers and to the men that have stepped up to be one. I know some people might not have a good father figure but Father’s Day is to celebrate the man in your life that has filled that role and been there for you. I have a few people I’d like to personally thank. 

Great grandpa – Thank you for all that you did to raise us all right by teaching us the Word of the Bible. You were my number one role model and I am so proud of everything you have accomplished. Thank you for fighting for this country and risking everything for our freedom. You are a true hero and wonderful grandpa. Love you and miss you! 

Grandpa – Thank you for being my personal mentor when it comes to my faith. You are always there for me and willing to help. I love our random calls with each other and am so happy for the bond we have. Thank you also for being a great dad to my mom ๐Ÿ˜Š

Dad – Thank you for raising me and being there for most of my life. I know things have gotten rough but I will always love you and am glad to call you my dad. 

Aaron – Thank you for being the best husband and father. I am so thankful to have someone by my side that loves our kids so much! The way Leo loves playing with you and somehow you always get Lexi to fall asleep when I can’t. You are so good to them and couldn’t ask for a better dad for my kids. I can’t wait for what our future holds. 

Comment below with who you would like to say happy Father’s Day to! ๐Ÿ˜Š


Beach Day & Date Night ๐Ÿ’œ

PART ONE – Beach Day

I love summer! And everything that comes with it. Sun, sand, beach and relaxing while tanning. With kiddos it make the beach more fun but also more challenging. Today was a wonderful day with no problems with the kids. 

My little one, Lexi was loving getting to roam free without boundaries. She’s also a major chunk so she is almost a year old but wearing a size 2 toddler ๐Ÿ˜‚

My lil man, Leo, wandered around until he found people flying a kite and then just stood and watched them. 

Both passed out once I put them in the stroller and went for a walk. It was a great day at the beach. 
PART TWO – Date Night

We don’t get date night too often but when we do it’s usually casual so we can relax. We decided to go to Del Mar in Downtown San Clemente. Decided to scope out for a new place to eat and stopped at a place called “Cotton’s” and it was amazing!

I would post pictures of the food but we ate it too fast ๐Ÿ˜ณ it was delicious. I was able to catch a photo of dessert though. 

A perfect end to a great day! ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’œ hope all y’all had a good Friday Funday!

Let me know below your great end to the week ๐Ÿ˜Š


๏ปฟPost-traumatic stress disorder from Combat

I have already posted about my issues with PTSD but from a combat standpoint, I have no experience. Hence I had my husband write his perspective on this topic. So the below post is credited to my guest writer and husband, Aaron McCrea.

This month is PTSD awareness month. What does that mean? And what does that mean to veterans that have PTSD?ย ย  My name is Aaron and I was in the Marine Corps from 2007 til 2011. I did 3 deployments one of which was to Afgan in the Hellma province, in the city of Marja. The situation of the city was simply: push back the enemy and win the hearts and minds of the people. My company was tasked with the main road on the south east side of the city. The engagements were mainly kinetic (meaning small arms fire). There were IED’s, however, they were mainly in the main road. The IED’s that were off the road where DFC ( directional fragment charges) and very few pressure plates.

One of my good friend Jason Pacheco happen to step on a pressure plate and lost part of his leg. There was a fire fight every day. It didn’t matter which team was going out, a fight was waiting for you. It was mainly small arms fire with support of snipers. The enemy would set up and wait, as soon as we came in they would hit us, but as we pushed to their positions they would run. They didn’t want to fight toe to toe, at least most of the time, but more of fight and get as much damage as possible until we hit a line of advancement that they could no longer keep fighting with risk to their lives. I cannot remember all the fire fights I was in, but I do remember specific ones, around 15. Since this glorious time in my Marine Corps career I have been dealing with the after math.

I have been out now for 5 years. In that time I have dealt with many things. There seems to be some basic problems that most Marines have to deal with when they get out. This is going to be my personal opinion and depending on the mental strength of an individual will depend on how things affect them. Example: In a fire fight you can have multiple different accounts of the event even if they were all in the same fire team. Why is that? I believe it has to do with their mental stability. To some a fire fight is why they joined and to others the most terrifying experience of their life. Just based off that statement you are going to have two different accounts of what really happened.

There are some key points that I would like to point out that the average person may not be aware off. Life in combat is simple. Yes, that’s right it is simple. There is no distractions of the world such as tv, computers, and money. Your main purpose is to do a job that’s it. My job, push the enemy back and win hearts and minds of the people. What that really entails is simple, conduct combat patrols, rotate 24 security for our protection, keep weapons and equipment operational, eat and sleep. That is simple, I didn’t say easy. Strangle enough, living that way felt more real and normal than living in the states. Let me now transition into how combat veteran’s have issues back home.

“PTSD,” post traumatic stress disorder. This is a term that is now over used and is misunderstood. PTSD is different for different events. Meaning, a person in a car accident is going to have different PTSD than a combat veteran. They both fall under the umbrella of it but not the same and not dealt with the same. Even the name is vague, “post traumatic stress disorder.” Let’s look at the first part, post traumatic. All that tells you is that it is after a traumatic event. That could mean anything, and that means what ever is traumatic for that person. For most people a small accident could be traumatic, which in turn they could have PTSD. The second part, “stress disorder.” Anyone that has anxiety knows exactly what that means and feels like. Situations cause uncontrollably stress resulting in extreme reactions and high emotions with a lack of clear thinking and good judgement. Coming to the conclusion that anyone and everyone can and may have PTSD. I didn’t mention different severities for a reason and I will get to that. Now having more knowledge into the term and the issue lets get into how this affects combat vets.

The word normal comes to mind when I think of combat vets. If anyone knows a combat vet then they know they are anything but normal, however, I believe this to be true. If you look at most of the world the United States are not the same. Our life in the States is quite different. When I was in Afgan it felt normal. That is odd but if you look back at history that was the norm. Look back 100 years and the States were quite different. I guess what I am trying to convey is that in war it is hard to explain to anyone that has not been there and when a person goes from one extreme to another, being the states, it creates problems. Ask the question of why are our vets coming back with issues and not just some of them but most to all of them? There is a real reason and I believe it has to do with our culture. We are more concerned about what actors and actresses are doing when they do nothing to be idolize for. They are not leaders like the ones I know who have been in countless battles and still lead to the best of their abilities and trice for greatness and for what less than 60k a year. Because they believe in what they are doing. They are protecting this country so our people can care about the dumbest things and not know what the world is really like. The good and bad thing about this 10 plus year war is that it is not on our soil. Yes, we have had some attacks but have not had war on our soil. I am not counting 9/11. I am referring to everything since. Life is not simple in the States, most people are so stressed and in debt, our priorities are backwards, what we think is important, mainly famous people, doesn’t mean anything. People in different country’s have conflict yearly and are used to the violence. However, a country that was built on war and violence is now scared of it and doesn’t understand what war really is and what it really means to be an American. This country was build on blood and war and fighting was understood, not always the answer, but knew it was necessary at times and we stood together as one.

Now, coming back from a war that is not understood or accepted leaves vets isolated. My issue with going back to the work force was I expected the same from normal people as I did my Marines and most people don’t understand what we did or why. Only a few know what struggles we have been through. One big issue is relating, the only people I can really relate to now are either combat vets or convicts. Why, because they are like vets, have been through what you can’t explain and know that the world is not what it seems. I live my life knowing at any point there can be an attack. ย I’ve gone a little off topic, let’s get back to the issue at hand.

My struggles since I have transitioned from the Marines to normal life. Well, it doesn’t hit you at first, the first 6 months was a piece of cake. But about that 6 month I went through some interesting changes. Before that however let me tell you that I went right out of the corps and into college. I struggled with the other students who where around 18 to 20 and I was 22. They had little to no life experience and strong opinions on matters they knew nothing about. Strange. There seemed to be a lack of being personal and real, well at least that’s how I felt. So I didn’t get along with most of the other students. Add in that I had developed a fear of crowds. Why? Because bad things happen in crowds and it is unsafe, too many people to watch and too many unknowns. Then came some good old PTSD. I started becoming really angry then super emotional. I had to hide out for a couple weeks because I couldn’t explain or control what I was going through. After that subsided I would have triggers that would set me off in either anger or any other state of high emotion. But 90% of the time was complete numbness. Didn’t feel for anyone or anything. Let me say that my combat was not as bad as others. I count my experience nothing compared to other vets who have really been through it to which only a few came home. With that comes more severity which breeds more extreme behavior.

There is a difference between what you can control and what you cannot. I am a person who strives to do better and because of that I saw I had some issues, after my wife had pointed out many of times, however, I didn’t really know there was issues until I had made a family. I noticed my anger was out of control and I had no patience with my son. I strived to get it under control but there was this confusing that I cannot explain that I kept running into. I could only get so far until I hit a wall of confusion that I could not mentally get passed and it did not allow me to move forward in anything. I had to drop out of school and start working, and when dealing with my son I could only do so much before I would have to leave as to not create anxiety in him. Finally I broke, I was only able to get 2 hours of sleep, I was extremely angry to the point that if someone would said anything and I didn’t like it I was going to blow up, so I went to work. Once I got to work I knew I needed to leave. I went into my bosses office and told him that I was unstable and had to leave from there I went straight to a vet center, which is a veteran run counseling office. I asked to speak with someone and I was lucky to get a counselor who helped me get past my wall of confusion. I have made great strides ever since. Now my anger is under control and my mind is clear to think effectively.

It took me about 3 to 4 years to get to were I am and like I stated before my combat is not as bad as others. In our brains we have something called a sympathetic nerves system or, fight or flight. What it does is it is the controller for your adrenaline. Now, what most people don’t know is when your body is being pumped with adrenaline it provides oxygen to your muscles but starved your brain. Combat vets sympathetic nerves systems are now broken. Anything can set it off, which leads to the wall of confusion and unable to think clearly. This same issue has to do with many people that have PTSD. I have a number of issues ranging from screaming in my sleep, social anxiety, easily startled, to hyper vigilance. I was lucky enough to be able to see the issue and work on it, others have a much worse plate than I and are unable to deal with it on their own without medication and therapy. But at the end of the day if the individual is not mentally wanting to get better they will not or if they do not believe there is an issue. All veterans have adopted the term PTSD from our society but that is the truth. There are a number of issues that come into play that are over looked, one of which is how the VA handles this; pumping vets full of drugs and not working on their mental stability. For some it is a chemical imbalance of the brain and other it is actually TBI, traumatic brain injury, not PTSD because they have similar symptoms.

In concluding, being aware that PTSD is not a disorder per-say, but a different state of mind that was developed by living in a different world. A world that has death and violence constantly unlike that of the states. I am speak of the majority not the minority of the country, like I stated convicts and gang members are similar because they also do not live in the same world as the rest of the states, a sub-society. Going from one extreme to another is alway going to come with conflict. I hope this help some better understand PTSD and if you know someone that has it ask them about it, I am sure they will be willing to share. Just don’t ask if they have shot anyone, no one likes to answer that question.


Travel Tuesday #1 – My Hometown of San Clemente

I have travelled to a few states in the United States and out of the country to places like Germany, France and Belgium. But by far, my hometown is my favorite place of all. I know everyone usually loves their hometown but I’ve made a list of the reason why I love San Clemente so much. 

  1. I can’t get over how beautiful the sunset at the pier is. It is breathtaking and my go to place to relax and think. 
  2. The different types of scenery all within such a small town. Mountain trails, sand caves, the beach. 
  3. All the city utility boxes are covered in colorful artwork. Makes them a small attraction. 
  4. The military base is close by so we always have military members around town. San Clemente has even adopted a unit within the United States Marine Corps and we have a statue and the flag always waving. 
  5. We have some historic buildings that are breathtaking and the main site to weddings. One main one would be Casa Romantica. 
  6. San Clemente is still a small town and everyone knows everyone here. But we are close to some bigger towns like Mission Viejo and Irvine. 
  7. We are home to the famous Rainbow Sandals. Which means everyone here wears them ๐Ÿ˜‹
  8. The weather is amazing. Hottest summer days are in the 80’s and the coldest winter days are low 50’s. So we are lucky to not be too cold or too hot. โ˜€๏ธ
  9. The whole town is pretty safe. No matter what time of day it is or what part of town I’m in, I feel safe. Many people have lived here for a long time and protect that peacefulness of San Clemente. 
  10. It is my hometown and where I grew up. I can still go to all the places I hung out with my friends growing up and find my name on the wood bench. I run into people I’ve known since elementary school and now we have our own kids growing up together. I will forever love San Clemente – my vacation spot, my sanctuary, my home.

Advice/Tips, Family, Opinion

Child At Heart

Many people don’t know much about my kids and how my oldest inspires me each day. He has a developmental delay and has therapy five days a week – oh and by the way, he’s only 2!

When he was about 14 months old, I noticed some red flags in his behavior. I made a list of the behaviors and scheduled an evaluation. 

  • No eye contact
  • Tantrums
  • No functional play
  • No speech
  • Sensitivity to sounds
  • Sensitivity to textures
  • Waking all night screaming
  • Poor appetite
  • Emotionally unstable 

At the end of his evaluation, I was told he possibly could be autistic and my stomach dropped. Not from fear of what others would think of me but of the struggles he would have to face. I had been a helper in high school for a kid that was autistic and I had seen first hand the challenges. 

We discussed the options and agreed to start therapy to see if he would make improvements. So within a few weeks I got a call and they explained how therapy would work. 

Monday through Friday for two hours each day and these sessions would be at home since he was so young. He would also do occupational therapy for 1 hour a week at a clinic. 

When we first started therapy, in December, I was skeptical because he had a major stranger danger attitude and hated new people – especially if they were wanting him to do something. So he would throw tantrums for the whole 2 hour session. 

Today, he fusses at the start for about 5 minutes but now works during session and has made bounds in improvements!

Now he makes eye contact, does functional play, stabilized his emotions and no more middle of the night waking. He is better with his sensory issues due to his occupational therapy. He is also trying to talk now by saying syllables and a few words here and there. 

A re-evaluation of his behavior shows little to no autism but a developmental delay only. I can keep working with him and therapy to get him up to par. 

Now, anytime I feel like something is impossible, I just look at my own little miracle cuddled next to me. If he can make efforts and improvements like that at only 2 years old then I think I can do anything. The power of a child’s determination, perseverance and strength motivate and inspire me to be the best I can be for my own children. 

Let me know what inspires you to be the best version of yourself! ๐Ÿ˜˜


13 Signs You Grew Up In South Orange County

Orange County is a wonderful place to grow up. With weather that is good all year long to beautiful sites to see, it is a georgeous place to live or even visit. 

  1. Acaฤฏ bowls are a big part of your diet. And when summer time comes, you call ahead to beat the line. 
  2. When you were a kid, you did Junior Lifeguards cuz your parents were scared of you drowning
  3. Rain creates a range of mixed emotions. Excitement at something new, shock due to the rarity, or panic at the thought of the traffic due to paranoid drivers. I’m guilty of posting about it on my social media ๐ŸŒง
  4. You know all the best Mexican food places around town and know all the taco Tuesday deals. 
  5. When you wanted to escape for the weekend or go on a vacation, the choices included: LA, San Diego, Palm Springs and Big Bear. If you were daring or want to really get away, you made the long drive to Arizona to go hiking. 
  6. You keep in touch with all your middle school and high school friends because you still come home on college break or you’ve moved back to live. 
  7. Anything past Irvine doesn’t count as Orange County to you. Irvine Spectrum is about as far as you’ll go. Riverside is forbidden territory and just the thought makes you cringe. 
  8. Your family has taken the photo for a holiday card at the beach in white shirts. 
  9. You tan during non summer months to keep your tan up. Nobody likes losing their tan. 
  10. It’s frustrating when people think all of California is the same. There is a huge difference between NorCal and SoCal! Trust me!
  11. Guys are allowed to have long hair without it being unusual. All the surfers and skateboarders have long hair. 
  12. There is a particular lingo many use to describe things down here. “Dank”, “chill”, “rad”, and “gnarly”. 
  13. And The Real OC was nothing like living in the OC. Some of the stereotypes are true but you’d never say that. 

Let me know if I missed any or if you think these hold true. Just comment below! ๐Ÿ˜Š